Day 8- Someone who has made your life hell, or treated you like shit.
First of all, if I listed everyone that ever treated me like shit I would be here until tomorrow. And that would just cover high school.
So let’s refocus. The one person who has made my life hell. Got that covered.
When I was fourteen, I met my first “real” boyfriend. (He is not the person, that would give him WAY too much credit he doesn’t deserve!) He and I dated on and off for two years. The only problem with our relationship is that he was simultaneously having an on and off relationship with another girl. Stephanie. And Stephanie made it her teenage mission to make my life hell. And for a long time she succeeded. How did she succeed you may be wondering? Oh…you know, mostly with hundreds of prank calls a night and that isn’t even an exaggeration. The things she would say to me…ugh. They still gross me out. On really good days she would call from a few different phones and have her friends call me too. We both hung out at the local skating rink and she made it a goal to threaten me three or four times a night. It all culminated in the park in my town. One night, after having enough of her bullshit, I agreed to meet her. I knew what was ahead…and I was right…she kicked my ass. It hurt. A lot. Physically of course but also emotionally. She had invited everyone in the tri-state area and my ego was crushed right along with my lip and nose. But I wanted it to end, and I honestly thought if I agreed to meet her and let her take a few punches, it would end. And for a while, the stalking (and that is exactly what it was) continued. But finally, my family got the cops involved. After a particularly good day of prank calling, we had just plain had it. The phone literally never stopped ringing. And I am talking every single day for over eighteen months. So we called a friend of ours who was a cop in town. And he had her arrested for harassment. In the end, we didn’t press charges. But she had to agree to leave me alone. Every now and then she would get her digs in but for the most part it did finally end. And even better, I ended it with my douchebag boyfriend.
I think the reason she sticks out in my head, even 15 years later, is because it really screwed with me emotionally. At one time, she had been my friend and it really dictated how I treated friends for a while…and because I didn’t trust anyone, I didn’t make a lot of friends. It made for a tough four years in high school. But as I got older, it affected how I treated friends in a positive way. I began to trust people and because of that I met the best friends I could have asked for; many of them I am still close with today. And I learned that with real friends, really great things happen. As for the asshole boyfriend, well…if anything, I learned what I would and would not tolerate in a relationship. And for that, I feel almost grateful. At least I got the worst relationship of my life out of the way first!
In the end, the lesson I learned is to really believe in Karma. Seriously, she dropped out of high school and got all messed up with bad boys and drugs. She has struggled as a single mom who drinks and parties way too much, doesn’t work and doesn’t have much to show for her life. And I am pretty sure she never actually grew up. We squashed our problems as adults, because we did have mutual friends and we did both eventually get over everything. I don’t wish any bad on her (she does enough to herself) and I have forgiven her but I will never forget what she did to me and how it made me feel. It is probably why I am so against bullying. I was lucky to have a great family support system, but some kids don’t. And there will always be Stephanie’s lurking around. I sure hope no one ever treats her kid the way she treated me.
Day 1 –> Something you hate about yourself
Day 2 –> Something you love about yourself
Day 3 –> Something you have to forgive yourself for
Day 4 –> Something you have to forgive someone else for
Day 5 –> Something you hope to do in your life
Day 6 –> Something you hope you never have to do in your life
Day 7 –>Someone who has made your life worth living