I don’t really like the idea of a resolution. To me, we should be resolute about changing our lives whenever the need arises. If I waited until January 1st every time I wanted to make a change, I have a feeling life would be very different. So while I am calling these “resolutions” they are really things I have been working on or want to start working on this year. They are more lifestyle changes, than simply goals I will achieve.
But in the spirit of the new year and tradition…I give you, my resolutions:
Read more. I love to read. Growing up, I was the only kid without a TV in my room. My mom wanted to instill a love of reading in me and knew I would replace reading with watching TV. And she was right, because when I did get a TV, my reading time went down. In school, I studied English, so I was ALWAYS reading. As an adult, I still love reading…books, magazines, newspapers, articles…anything. I love learning so I tend to read autobiographies, biographies and historical books but I also love a good Jodi Picoult book. My favorites of all time? Go Ask Alice, Perks of Being a Wallflower (and I refuse to see the movie), My Sisters Keeper (movie not even close to as good), Nineteen Minutes and Yes, I have a lot of favorites!
Complete one house project a month. I still think houses should come with a landlord! Keeping up with a three bedroom house alone can be daunting. And I bought a fixer-upper. Still lotsa fixin to do! If I do one thing a month, even small, I will feel accomplished. This month, I would like to take down my Christmas decorations. Yes, they are still up and yes, it is a project!
Keep blogging. I didn’t realize how much I missed blogging because I wasn’t able to see how much I actually missed life in general. Getting back to blogging (both reading and writing) has been great. I remember now why I started this blog in the first place: to keep a journal of my progress and my journey. The friends I have met along the way are a great bonus. But truthfully, if no one ever read this again, I would still keep writing.
Pay it forward more. It is as simple as leaving a note for someone. Paying for a coffee for the guy behind you. Just something that says, “not everyone in this world sucks” because sometimes it is hard to remember that there is so, so, much good behind all the bad we hear about and read about on a daily basis.
Compliment 3 people a day. I love when I get a random compliment. I have a feeling everyone does.
Live and let live. I am not too proud to admit, this will not be easy for me. I lose patience way too fast, not stopping to think about what might be going on in someone’s life before I get annoyed with them. Examples: slow drivers, waiting in lines and screaming kids in stores/restaurants. Recently, this guy came to speak at our school. His message was simple and clear. And I am trying every day to just live and let live.
Let go of past failures. Likely, this will be hardest for me. But I am working on it.
Take care of myself. I gave up a lot when I was with R2. I constantly felt bad for how much my training and second job took away from us time wise, that I didn’t do other things I would have liked because I would have felt even worse. For so long, I did not put myself first. And I still don’t at times. I still have trouble saying no or carving out time for the things I need/want. I need to think more about my mental and emotional health when making decisions.
Appreciate every day. I used to write three things I was grateful for each week. Now, I am writing down three things I am grateful for every day. It is not always easy to come up with three things, but I am learning a greater appreciation for even the smallest things.
Pay off my credit card debt. This one is HUGE. But totally doable as long as I keep picking up extra shifts waitressing and stick to my budget. I have been in cc debt for 6 years and it doesn’t feel good. And by general standards, I am actually considered to be in really good shape. However, I hate having to spend so much money every month paying things off. For the last six months (with exception of a few internet purchases) everything has been paid for with cash. I am really proud of that and cannot wait until I have extra money every month to add to my mortgage principle instead of sending to credit card companies!
What were some of your resolutions?